Today I’m going to write a post I’ve been wanting to write for quite awhile now but wasn’t quite sure where to start. But of course, it all came to me while I was in a Friday Deep Stretch class. It had been a long […]
This week I’m taking you back to a book a read about a year ago. It was so good that I wanted to bring it up on here and I even decided to re-read it…well, re-listen to it. There are so many incredible tidbits in this book, I could not possible touch on them all here. So, I’ll give you my top five favorite topics she covers. But, really, if you want your eyes opened and a book that’ll get you thinking about your path to success, you MUST READ You Are A Badass: How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life by Jen Sincero.
First of all, Jen is hilarious. I love her raw commentary and common sensicle wisdom that makes you think, Duh, why didn’t I think of that?? As I mentioned, this is my second time reading this book and it was just as good, if not better, than the first time. Starting with the end of my list, here are my favorite themes in this book…
5. Being Rigid
Being a bit, well, ummmm, “Type A”…ugh, I try not to admit it too often. Hi my name is Lauren and I am Type A. This is where you all say, “Hi Lauren.” Okay, now that we’ve got that out of the way…there is a lot of speculation around what characteristics define Type A and Type B. But I am your typical Type A. We’re talking can’t do anything half-assed, everything has their place, I have every bill due for a year scheduled in my planner. I can’t even wear red and pink in the same outfit…not kidding. I can’t even where underwear that clashes with the clothes I’m wearing! Bah…TMI?!?!
Anywho…are you starting to wonder how this relates to this book? A brief but impactful portion of this book talks about how being rigid can actually inhibit your chances of reaching your goals. For me, this was a bit hard to comprehend. You’re trying to tell me that if I am not strict and follow every step that’s laid out for me, I won’t succeed?? Well, Sincero explains that when you’re inflexible with your goals or expectations, you may be setting yourself up to fail.
Feeling grateful? Yea?? Well then why not acknowledge it? This seems to be a common theme among many of the books I read but Jen describes it the best – “the gateway drug to awesomeness.” I mean serious, does it get much better than that? Practicing gratitude is something I am trying to incorporate into my daily life. And I’ll tell you what, when I do, I feel amazing! It’s hard to find something to complain about or be down and out about when you’re thinking about all the things you’re thankful for.
Sincero describes that if “you are in a constant state of gratitude, and aware of all the awesomeness that already exists, it, among many other things, makes it much easier for you to believe that there’s more awesomeness where that came from, and that this yet-to-be-manifested awesomeness is also available to you.” I mean, if that doesn’t make you want to practice gratitude, I don’t know what will!
3. Money is not the enemy
Yikes…this one is a tough one for me. And if you haven’t yet read You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth also by Jen Sincero and you feel like money doesn’t come easily to you, then you should, without a doubt, get reading it. And yes, I will be doing a “Must Read” on this book as well. I feel as though I’ve struggled with money my whole adult life. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done pretty well for myself. But I’ve often felt like as soon as I get ahead, something happens that sets me back. Your typical, one step forward, three steps back. For this reason, I often resent money.
Jen describes this resentment towards money is exactly what creates a wall between us and reaching our monetary goals. She describes money as an exchange of energy. I really like this analogy she notes in her book…
Money is energy like anything else, and when you’re operating at a high frequency with no resistance to it, and take right action, you can money you desire. We all know that we have to work to make money, we’ve been taught that all out lives, but what we’re not taught is that we much also align our energy with the financial abundance we seek.
2. Love yourself
Feeling a little cheesed out by the title of this section. Well you just wait! One of my favorite quotes from this book…
When we’re happy and all in love with ourselves, we can’t be bothered with the bullshit (our own or other people’s)
Seriously, I want you to think about this for a minute. *pausing for one minute* If that statement right there doesn’t get you amped up to read this book, I don’t know what will. If we could all just be happy with ourselves, comfortable in our skin, proud of our careers, in love with whomever we want to be in love with, there wouldn’t be much room for worrying about other people’s opinions.
We would be so confident that we wouldn’t feel threatened by someone else’s success or let down when someone doesn’t agree with the path we’ve chosen. How awesome would that be????
In her book, Jen talks about what several ways you can love yourself more – affirmations, spending times doing the things you love, not comparing yourself to others. But I think the one that stuck with me the most was the section titled “ditch the self-deprecating humor.”
What she’s talking about here is when we say things to ourselves (whether outloud or even just in our minds) that put us down. For example, when I include the wrong person on an email reply – “ugh, I suck” – NO! It was a mistake. Every one makes mistakes!! Another classic that I am so totally guilty of, “ugh, I’m so gross and fat.” AH! Doesn’t it just make you cringe to hear me say that about myself?? Then WHY are you saying it to ourselves?! My new motto when it comes to positive self-talk…
If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself. – Jane Travis, counselor and psychotherapist geared towards helping women love themselves again
1. Universal Intelligence
And finally, one of my favorite topics of all time – hence it is my favorite topic by far in this book. What is Universal Intelligence, you ask? Well, it can be called many things (God, Buddha, Source Energy, the Force, the Mother Lode). But essentially, it’s whatever you believe in that makes you believe in great things, allows you to find your groove or flow, and makes you feel good about this incredible life we’ve been handed.
Jen likes to refer to this as Source Energy, mostly. She has an incredible way of describing it. She’s able to make these connections in her book that will really, and I mean really, getting you think about how the universe can work in your favor, if you let it. I’ve started opening myself up to (what I like to call Universal Intelligence) about a year ago and man am I glad I did.
I’ll be posting about this topic more and more but to get a basic understanding of this and how using source energy, you should definitely get your hands on Jen Sincero’s, You Are A Badass!
Already read this book? I’d love to hear what you took away from it. What tidbits have you executed and how has it benefited you?
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Every Boss Babe must read this book
Holy Smokes, ladies! Who has read Melissa Ambrosini’s Mastering Your Mean Girl: The No-BS Guide to Silencing Your Inner Critic and Becoming Wildly Wealthy, Fabulously Healthy, and Bursting with Love?? It’s a long title but this book made me say to myself “Hell yeah!” over and over again. And this is exactly what Melissa is trying to encourage you to feel throughout the book.
So I’ll be honest, when I initially read the first part of the title “Mastering Your Mean Girl” I was a little confused what this book would be about. At first I wondered, is this girl gonna tell me how to be tougher and stick up to people more?? NOPE! Not at all! I seriously loved this book! I actually listened to this one on Audible and Melissa is the narrator herself which makes it that much better! I love her energy! I now own it in print AND I’m listening to it AGAIN!
Get that mean girl out of your head
So why have I chosen this book for my debut Must Read series? Because Melissa’s words are what finally encouraged me to step out of my comfort zone and start this blog. I had been wanting to start this blog for quite some time but that bully in my head, AKA my mean girl, kept telling me not to. Thanks to Melissa’s encouraging words, I have taken the leap. And, boy, am I glad I am did!! Ok, so let’s jump in…
Bye Bye Mean Girl
Do you ever have those thoughts that cause you serious doubt? I’ll never find the time to start a side gig. I’m not savvy enough to start my own business. Why do I bother eating healthy when these thunder thighs aren’t going anywhere anyway? We will never be able to save up enough money to buy our dream home. Well, honey, you are what you think. This book really gave me perspective on how to tell that mean girl with all those doubt-filled, fearful thoughts to shut up! She’s only getting in my way and making me feel less confident in myself and flat out unhappy.
Love versus Fear
Melissa talks a lot about love and fear throughout her book. You might be thinking, here she goes again, getting all philosophical. Not at all! It’s actually a very simple concept. If you are full of fear (or in other words, negativity, self-doubt, or trepidation) this is going to seriously limit your potential. Not just your potential for success, but anything you’re trying achieve…weight loss, improved fitness, happy and healthy relationships, the freedom of time, self-employment…the list goes on and on. We’re all seeking accomplishment but if we’re full of self-doubt and fear, we’ll always be taking one step forward and three steps back.
So let’s turn this negative chatter around! Let’s talk about love, baby! No, I’m not talking about finding the man of your dreams (although, Melissa does address this in her book). I’m talking about deep down feelings of love for yourself, your family, your friends, and your environment. Melissa has this way of opening your eyes to how you can not only love yourself better but the world around you.
This book also makes you think about the actions you take and if you’re doing them out of love or fear. For example, are you exercising and eating healthy because you love your body and it makes you feel good? (Love) Or are you doing it out of shame or resentment? (Fear) I’d must rather have the former be my motivation! It was seriously inspiring!
Another nugget, rather a massive chunk, I got from this incredible book is encouragement to stick to my truth. What do I mean by this you ask? Sticking to your truth is abiding to actions and thoughts that honor your beliefs and not others as well as not doing or saying things just because it’s the norm or the “appropriate” thing to do. This can be as simple as not buying a new style of clothing just because everyone else is if you happen to not like it. Or, this can be a bit more complex in removing yourself from a toxic relationship in which you are being bullied or being made to feel less than your worth.
Just since reading this book, I’ve had several scenarios ranging from very benign to quite complicated already where simply asking myself, what is my truth? And what actions will keep me closest to my truth? has helped me figure out next steps that are best for me. And let me tell you, once you do this a few times, it’s quite liberating!
These are just a few of the multitude of tid-bits and topics Melissa covers in her book. She touches on eating healthier, finding your passions, managing your money, meaningful relationships…and all with such encouraging undertones.
I’ve never been quite so inspired by a single book! Seriously, Melissa, if you ever read this blog post, Thank you so much for sharing your extraordinary insights with the world and inspiring me to step outside my comfort zone!
Visit Mastering Your Mean Girl for more inspiration and go pick up a copy or download the audio version to get your, hell yeah, on too!
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